[Limerick (eslimm)]

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 that I want all of your opinions on, so here


So I need to ask the guys (or in some cases girls), who have paid for porn, pics, vids, sexting, WHATEVER!

What are you actually buying?

The Nude or Her Integrity?

So... I”m a woman.... but I’ve been in a similar position.  I once dated a photographer whose favorite thing in the world seemed to be taking nude pictures of me.   I’m just thankful they they didn’t end up on the Internet.  It turns out that it was pretty hot. Then he went off the rails and wanted to take pictures of me having sex with several of his friends.  Yeah... didn’t happen.  Not on camera, anyway.  The last time I saw him, I woke up in the middle of the night tied, spreadeagled to the bed with a bedroom full of more than a dozen of his college buddies.  I remember sunlight coming through the bedroom window by the time one of them finally untied me. It was a LONG night!  And quite a long time before my poor labia didn’t look like they’d endured nine rounds with Mike Tyson.
 My suspicion is that your guy is motivated by two things:  guys are far more visually stimulated than girls are.  A nude photo will drive his fantasies about you.  It may also be a control thing.  I doubt it has anything to do with your integrity really... though imposing his will on you is likely a factor.  But, Hell, if you can parlay a nude photo into rent money, who’s really in control?

[[Bubbles]]

So honestly, I think my views on this entire experience are starting to shift.  Now let me explain that a bit. 

The emergence of OnlyFans and it's normalization in culture.  OnlyFans has given the power of porn to women, maybe for the first time ever.  As some of you know I considered dipping my toe in the adult entertainment industry. However, I wanted to produce and direct, not act.   This was quickly shot down by every producer I spoke with saying unless I had a mountain of cash, the only way to get behind the camera was to be in front of it first.  Most the women who are producers and directors are previous porn stars.  This was not for me. OnlyFans lets me produce and star, there doesn't have to be a break between the two, I wouldn't have to spend 10 years sucking dick for the right to just do what I want.  This power exchange isn't just disrupting the industry, its redefining it completely.

This sort of shift in power means IF the person making the content WANTS to put their integrity up for sale, that's not only possible but profitable.  If you want to sell the experience, or the content or even just the illusion of obedience and control, now YOU (content creator) don't have to choose because you set the market.  However, to answer a few DM's, I am still not open to doing an only fans....yet.

[[Bubbles]]

I find myself agreeing with, and sympathetic to, your initial assessment of the guy and his motives/goals.

Then you change the game, and suggest that you might consider going into business of providing to that guy, those things we assume he was seeking.

Certainly that will raise flags, attracting those among us who share similarities to that original guy... people who want to pull you off your center.

Any wolf prowling, must certainly smell the blood.

But we autists are not the best communicators, so I never know if I understood correctly, nor whether what I tried to say was understandable.

I'm still a long way from desiring or even really considering that line of work but I guess I was just sharing some perspective I've gained in the last year.

[Army of One]

This sort of shift in power means IF the person making the content WANTS to put their integrity up for sale, that's not only possible but profitable.  If you want to sell the experience, or the content or even just the illusion of obedience and control, now YOU (content creator) don't have to choose because you set the market.  However, to answer a few DM's, I am still not open to doing an only fans....yet.

I'll be honest with you here, Bubbles, I think OnlyFans exists so that actresses can share their stuff without selling their integrity. I mean, if a porn studio tells you to do a certain kind of scene that you're not comfortable with, and you do it anyway because "it pays", that's selling your integrity, you're not doing the scene on your terms. On OnlyFans, everything is on your terms alone.

[[Bubbles]]

This sort of shift in power means IF the person making the content WANTS to put their integrity up for sale, that's not only possible but profitable.  If you want to sell the experience, or the content or even just the illusion of obedience and control, now YOU (content creator) don't have to choose because you set the market.  However, to answer a few DM's, I am still not open to doing an only fans....yet.

I'll be honest with you here, Bubbles, I think OnlyFans exists so that actresses can share their stuff without selling their integrity. I mean, if a porn studio tells you to do a certain kind of scene that you're not comfortable with, and you do it anyway because "it pays", that's selling your integrity, you're not doing the scene on your terms. On OnlyFans, everything is on your terms alone.

I totally agree, and while only fan still isn't for me, I get why people are flocking to it

[roshnikhanna]

I don't think it's a matter of integrity, really, more of safety.