I tried therapy once for issues to do with relationships. The first one was like …. how do you even have this job? How did you pass any exams or tests? It's like he was quoting psychology from the ladybird book of "Broken Brain Tips". I was talking about an issue and he was responding with stuff which quite honestly shocked me with how basic it was. Some sort of scam maybe.
Then I went to someone else, and I felt like she was a bit more professional and got it … but I just spend the whole time talking, and psychoanalysing myself. She didn't really guide the conversation in a way that revealed anything new to me. I just did all the work and she clock watched. I guess I felt a bit better from being able to let it out with someone, but I also felt worse because that person didn't actually care.
I think your shrink needs to be significantly smarter than you, so they can instantly process what you're saying, understand where it's coming from, and thinking on the fly, probe and move it in the right direction. If you're smarter than them, and are introspective enough to have taken an interest in why you are the way you are, they're not going to be much help. Even if you're wrong about yourself and why you have these problems, if they can't get ahead of your thought processes, they can't help you.