We all have things which we keep in our dark corners, unshared, and sometimes unacknowledged even to ourselves. Because we're afraid we'll freak others (or possibly ourselves) out if we let on. There are very few people in the world, I suspect, who actually face and interact with every dark corner in their own minds.
What's my point and where am I going with all of this? Perversion is extremely relative. Odds are decent that one or another of your lovers, in your lifetime, will be bothered more by something you consider harmless enough to admit to than they would have been by something you never dared to tell them. Personally, I'm pretty sure I'm unflappable in that department myself, and I've even been put to the test when an ex went psychotic, and started telling me about his secret longings. (They involved genital self-mutilation, to put it mildly.) It made me a touch uncomfortable, admittedly, but I felt no harsh internal judgement of his fetish. (The harsh judgement came later, when he started talking really psychoticly, while driving me at 60 mph way out into the country... yeah. got a little judgy at that point. Glad I did, too.)
Anyhoo, it occurred to me to do a general survey of perv-asciousness, to actually see written out how peoples' personal perve curves varied, at least within a narrow and heavily perv-biased sampling. (Y'all'r twistoids, and ya know it. And I wouldn't have it any other way. *S*)
So I've taken a notorious internet scene-negotiation checklist, and edited it somewhat, so it reflects not what it's subject has done, hasn't done, and would or would not ever do, but instead rates individual fetishes or activities on a scale from one to ten, to reflect how extreme/perverse one considers each act to be, within their personal frame of reference. (For example, I consider myself to be an extremely kinky individual, and am likely to rate several of the activities I practice often or would like to practice often, with a five or higher, while there are things I doubt I would ever do, but which I consider fairly tame on the perve scale.)
I'd say the scale looks a bit like this:
0: Beyond vanilla into yawning bordom. Handshakes are pervier.
1: Well, I don't think it's at ALL kinky, and I'm absolutely certain no one else does either.
2: I don't think it's at all kinky, but some devout religious people might.
3: Getting interesting, at least, but still not quite into the realm of "Kink" by my standards.
4: A tiny touch on the kinky side, but not more than a marriage counselor might suggest to re-spark a marriage.
5: Officially kinky, but not outrageously so- everybody has one or two of these hiding in their own closet, and they're only likely to share that fact with long term intimates.
6: Signifigantly kinky, possibly a touch on the perverted side. These are the secrets one might even keep from a spouse, for fear of recrimination.
7: Honest to Goddess Perversions. These are the things we are embarassed to admit even to ourselves.
8: Hard-core Perversions. Things we try very hard NOT to admit to ourselves if we can help it, and would lie if someone brought it up, even in a posative light.
9: Twisted and extreme. If we have any of these desires, they are coming straight from the Id, and we actively avoid knowing they exist within us.
10: Broken, Scary, Bad. The things we fear ever encountering in another, and can't even imagine ever feeling in ourselves. Even discovering a hint of such a perversion in oneself might be grounds for volluntary commital to a long-term mental health program. (I actually have one or three of these, and am at peace with them.)
Okay... now that's out of the way, here's the (far from exhaustive, but extremely inclusive) list.
Take it, then you can keep it to yourself, or meme it out if you're feeling bold and self-confronty, post it as a reply to this post (though it might be too long, so maybe behind a spoiler tag or something... Do we have those here?)
Have fun kiddies... you know you wanna. (And yes, I'll post my own Perve Curve here. I bet it's changed since I created this thing, back in 2005!)
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General:
Animal Roles (Pony/Puppy, etc...)
Roleplay, Other (Doctor/patient, Guard/Prisoner, etc...)
Power-Exchange (Total or negotiated)
Breath control/Asphyxiation
Age Play (Little boy/girl, Mommy/daddy)
Infantilism (An extreme of Age Play)
Basic bondage (for movement restriction or decoration)
Extreme bondage (For discomfort or pain)
Sensation play (No pain)
Extreme sensation play (Includes pain)
Sensory play (Includes deprivation,illusion)
Worship/obsession (Body parts, boots, etc...)
Scatophilia (Fecal play)
Urophilia (Urine play)
Confinement (cages, closets, etc...)
Servitude (Consentual Slavery)
Servitude (Non-consentual Slavery rp)
Subjegation/debasement
Invasion (insertion, whether through traditional orifices, or through contrivance, as in piercing)
Discipline/Training
Objectification/Depersonization
Fetishism (Ritualization or sexual obession with a non-sexual item, activity, or substance.)
Electrical Play
Voyeurism
Exhibitionism
Gender play/Transvestitism
Sadism (Sexual pleasure from the infliction of pain or suffering of another.)
Masochism (Sexual pleasure from your own pain or suffering.)
Sado-Masochism (Sexual pleasure from pain or suffering, inflicted upon oneself, OR another.)
Endurance/limit play
Beastiality/Zoophilia
Non-consent (Fantasy or actual)
Death (fantasy or actual)
Permanant harm or Murder (Fantasy or actual)
Specific:
Anal sex
Anal plugs
Animal roles (Pony girls, dog slaves, etc...)
Light bondage (wrists to bedposts, etc...)
Medium Bondage (Leather shackles, chains, decorative rope, an hour or less.)
Heavy Bondage (immobilization, hogtie, body sculpt/asian ropeworks, or several hours at a time.)
Extreme Bondage (Total immobilization, overnight or multi-day binding or caging.)
Aroma play
Asphyxiation/breath control
Ball stretching
Bathroom use control
Beastiality (sexual acts with animals)
Blindfolds
Being serviced (having sex acts performed upon you while you relax or do something else.)
Biting/Being bitten
Breast binding
Breast obsession/worship
Branding
Body Modification
Boot worship
Breast whipping
Caning
Catheterization
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)
Chamber-pot use
Chastity belts
Chores (domestic service, as part of sexual play)
Clothespins, clamping
Cock rings/straps
Cock worship
Collars
Corsets (wearing casually)
Corsets (trained waist reduction)
Cuffs (leather)
Cuffs (metal)
Diapering
Dilation
Dildos
Double penetration
Electrical play
Enemas
Examinations
Exercise (forced/required)
Exhibitionism
Eye contact restrictions
Face slapping
Fantasy abandonment
Fantasy rape
Fear play
Fetishism: fur
Fetishism: leather
Fetishism: rubber
Fetishism: feathers
Fetishism: silk/satin
Fetishism: water
Fetishism: blood
Fetishism: inflatables
Fetishism: furries (anthros)
Fetishism: Food
Fisting
Flame play
Foot worship
Forced bedwetting or clothing-wetting
Forced dressing
Forced eating
Forced homosexuality
Forced heterosexuality
Forced masturbation
Forced nudity
Forced smoking
Full head hoods
Gags
Gas masks
Gates of Hell (male)
Gender play/transvestism
Genital Alteration/mutilation
Genital sex
Given away/loaned out
Golden showers (Urine as fetish)
Gun play
Hairbrush spankings
Hair pulling
Hand jobs
Harems
Harnessing
High heels (as fetish)
Hoods
Hot oils (on genitals)
Hot waxing
Humiliation
Hypnotism
Ice cubes
Infantilism
Injections (Generally saline...)
Interrogations
Kidnapping
Kneeling
Knife play
Leather clothing
Lectures for misbehavior
Licking (floor, boots, etc...)
Lingerie
Manacles & Irons
Massage
Medical scenes
Modeling for erotic photos
Mouth bits
Mummification
Name change (for scene)
Name change (legal, permanent)
Nipple play/"torture"
Nudism/Naturism
Oral sex
Oral/anal play (rimming)
Over-the-knee spanking
Orgasm denial
Orgasm control
Outdoor scenes
Outdoor sex
Pain play (severe)
Pain play (mild)
Personality modification
Phone sex
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)
Piercing (permanent)
Plastic surgery
Polyamory
Polygamy
Prostitution (public pretense)
Prostitution (actual)
Public exposure
Punishment Scene
Pussy/cock whipping
Pussy worship
Riding crops
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.)
Rituals
Religious scenes
Restrictive rules on behavior
Roleplay scenes (medical, prison, etc...)
Rubber/latex clothing
Saran wrapping
Scarification
Scatological play (feces as fetish)
Scratching
Sensory deprivation
Serving as art (objectification)
Serving as ashtray (humiliation)
Serving as furniture (objectification)
Serving as a maid
Sexual deprivation (short term)
Sexual deprivation (long term)
Shaving (body hair)
Shaving (head hair)
Skinny-dipping
Sleep deprivation
Sleepsacks
Spanking
Speech restrictions (when, what)
Speculums
Spitting
Spreader bars
Standing in corner
Stocks
Straight jackets
Strap-on-dildos
Strapping (full body beating)
Suspension
Supplying new partners
Swapping (with one other couple)
Swinging (multiple couples)
Tattooing
Teasing
Tickling
Triple penetration
Urethral Sounds (metal rods)
Uniforms
Verbal humiliation/abuse
Vibrators
Voyeurism
Video voyeurism
Water torture
Waxing (hair removal)
Weight control (Gain/Loss)
Whipping
Wooden paddles
Wrestling
Zoophilia (Romantic love with another species)
