This topic's kinda near and not-so-dear to my heart, because while I don't get a lot of net requests for "show me your picture" and "where do you live?" I get peer pressure toward in in my performing career. Here's the thing- In the aether, I am the redheaded toon y'all are slowly getting to know. That's me. That's my face, those are my tits. yes they're made out of pixels, but why should that matter to anyone? If you're worried I might be a man, well.. you can listen to my performances, live, and I'd have to be a seriously talented female impersonator to pull that off.
But I still get pressure to "get real" with people. "Do you webcam?" Nope. "Why won't you show us your face?" Because the person behind the keys has her own life, on that side of the keys, and wants to keep it that way.
As to the transgender point- I met a guy- serious freaky bad rapist monstrosity of a guy, and he and I hit it off. We dated virtually for a few weeks, and then he let me know there was something really important h wanted to discuss, and he seemed worried. And that freaked me out a bit, but I'm cool- we can talk, right? So we talked. I said, look- it's all good, but I'm sure I can take it. What- are you going to tell me you used to be a woman or something?
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He fell silent. There was a long pause. And then he started laughing his ass off. Turns out that was pretty much exactly the deal. He was born female. Trans male, pre-op. I was a little startled by the news, but honestly, how could I do anything but support him wanting of himself what I wanted for him too? I get that not everyone is going to be cool with that, in their own lives, but still. Unless you are actually planning to meet and have sex with somebody, what difference does the pound of flesh and six pints of blood matter? If someone's well-spoken, grooves to the same stuff I groove to, and doesn't behave like an ass, then if they tell me their dick's 9 inches, why should I question? (No- I don't wanna see your dicks, guys. Seriously. Unless it's a REALLY pretty dick. And awesomely pierced.
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