Why are pics even important? Do women need to prove themselves? Screw that!
I don't have to prove myself to anyone and I refuse to do so just so someone will "accept" that I am real.
Fair 'nuff.
But then don't expect to be taken seriously.
Brings to mind my elementary school years. A kid on the playground, Tommy Burbank, claimed to be the best marble player in the world. But wouldn't play "for keeps". And when he lost (which he regularly did) while playing "for fun", he would chalk that up to not bringing his "A-Game" since, after all, we weren't playing for keeps. But if we were, he assured us, he'd win every game.
No need to wonder what became of Tommy Burbank.
I have no doubt he grew into a super hot female.
On the internet.
Who doesn't send out pix.
But you didn't fool me then, Tommy Burbank.
And you're not fooling me now.
--Ray
I don't think anyone is really in disagreement. I don't really expect a woman who does not feel a connection to me, a friendship with me to send me her picture. Why should she? Because she's an exhibitionist?
I don't think the idea of sending a picture to a "friend", someone you feel comfortable, have developed trust with is the issue. If someone likes me, is my friend and wants to send me a picture, or I want to send them mine, that's our business.
The issue is when someone EXCPECTS picture, not knowing who you are, not having a bond, a connection with you, just some person who wants to get off, or whatever. That's a turn off. It's like saying, "hey, I don't particularly give a shit about you but, um...suck my dick....oh..and by the way, swallow my cum!" It's like, are you kidding me?!!
I'm a guy and I'm careful about where my pictures may wind up online. So why would a woman feel any different?
Having said that Ive had many women send me their pictures over the years and not once did I misuse the picture or betray trust. I've also never asked for a picture unless I was "into" the woman. I also never minded waiting until the woman was comfortable. If she never sent me a picture, cool, no biggie, we don't have to be friends; It wasn't meant to be. So WHY THE BIG DEAL?! Why does coercion have to be involved. If a woman wants to send you her pic, she will. IF she won't and you're not happy about it, move on! No big deal. I think guys who are so insistent on getting pictures from women, especially without some kind of connection, trust, and/or friendship involved, are likely betraying their own insecurity, insensitivity, lack of social skills, lack of relationship skills, neediness, lack of nuance, etc.
The idea of a woman sending me her picture online because I've pestered her is nauseating to me! Like, why would I want to do that to someone. It's ridiculous!
