[The Rt Hon. The Lord Ox]

Absolutely, loverquest.

In responsible ravishment, the top has the option, the right, the responsibility, and the obligation to check-in and/or stop if something is suspected to be amiss.

R*pe Play is edge play. Edge play ethics and cautions apply.
 
Bottom has trusted Top with her/his body. That is a Most Sacred Trust. That submission is a Most Precious Gift. Due care and diligence must be taken.

[loverquest]

when I realized.... "what" i had gotten myself into....
well it is a realization that I have given trust enough that QUITE literally, he holds my life in his hands.....

if you (as a sub) do not want to trust that much, be very cautious.

Communication outside the bedroom is key.

For the women, it isn't any easier.  Many men will think we are insane if we ask to be raped.  Asking if they have ever wanted to hold a woman down during sex can be a conversation opener.  If they say no, they may not have a kinky side.  If they say yes, you can tell them it's their lucky day.  lol!

[kira]

A guy I was seeing for awhile said, as much as id like to hold you down, strip, you and fuck you senseless im obligated to treat you with respect. Youre a lady and will be treated like one.

That was the end of our discussion on rape play.  He was a gentleman, but theres also a time to play, we arent seeing one another anymore lol but hes still a great friend.

Cool and sensible

HB

[savage4U]

very well said and i agree. Always know who you are going to allow into world in that manner and i could not imagine if my partner did not know i was role playing with femailes with certain likes. I imagine it could get quite erm loud. LOL

Helo

All great tips and insight to this world. I never new so much planning and discussion was involved. It answers tons of questions anew comer like me thunks about but doesnt want to sound dumb asking. Thanks again

Communication outside the bedroom is key.

For the women, it isn't any easier.  Many men will think we are insane if we ask to be raped.  Asking if they have ever wanted to hold a woman down during sex can be a conversation opener.  If they say no, they may not have a kinky side.  If they say yes, you can tell them it's their lucky day.  lol!

This is where I am stuck at. I've been with my husband for 5 years... Have had a burning desire to be brutalized, taken against my will, humiliated etc. for a long time... But have no way to bring this up to him with out fear he will think I'm absolutely insane and need mental help lol

[ForceU2Love]

Communication outside the bedroom is key.

For the women, it isn't any easier.  Many men will think we are insane if we ask to be raped.  Asking if they have ever wanted to hold a woman down during sex can be a conversation opener.  If they say no, they may not have a kinky side.  If they say yes, you can tell them it's their lucky day.  lol!

This is where I am stuck at. I've been with my husband for 5 years... Have had a burning desire to be brutalized, taken against my will, humiliated etc. for a long time... But have no way to bring this up to him with out fear he will think I'm absolutely insane and need mental help lol

I can't  IMAGINE,

Good communications at all stages is definitely the key.

[babydean1]

Thank You. This was very useful information

[[Bubbles]]

I wish the were a way to know without risking the relationship if someone was okay with rape-play

I have found this to be both interesting and informative a thread.

I wish the were a way to know without risking the relationship if someone was okay with rape-play

It really depends on the level of the relationship.  Gentle asking about kinky things is a good way to get started.  Be warm and listen, and there is a chance they will broach the subject themselves.

[[Bubbles]]

I have found this to be both interesting and informative a thread.

I wish the were a way to know without risking the relationship if someone was okay with rape-play

It really depends on the level of the relationship.  Gentle asking about kinky things is a good way to get started.  Be warm and listen, and there is a chance they will broach the subject themselves.

Unfortunately, that relationship has already crashed & burned. #StoryOfMyLife