To me the whole idea of America or the West being consumed/dominated by some kind of 'rape culture' is nonsense.
Most Western men look on rape with contempt and rapists are notoriously treated almost as badly as paedophiles even by other criminals.
But I think with mass immigration from countries who look on rape very differently that's changing a bit.
And of course the whole issue of personal responsibility works both ways.
To take some obvious examples - feminists seem to believe that a drunk man is responsible for his actions while a drunk woman is not; that how a woman dresses or behaves has no relevance to whether or not she is raped.
I disagree with both those points of view. To me either BOTH are EQUALLY responsible or NEITHER. It's just dishonest and sexist to assume a drunk man is responsible and NOT a drunk woman.
And I know from personal experience that - even though we might agree in theory that it should NOT make any difference how a woman dresses, talks or behaves that in the REAL world - as opposed to the cosy middle-class privileged world feminists live in - it DOES make a difference.
I believe we ALL need to show personal responsibility - male or female.
To me the whole 'rape culture' crap is just an excuse.
What we need - and this applies to both genders - is to develop attitudes of mutual respect and consideration.
IMO the problem with Western society is NOT some mythical rape culture - it's the culture of narcissism.
That's the root of most of the problems in our society.
I'll be the first to say that I agree with you, we do not live in a rape culture. BUT I am agreeing to that out of the core and infinity fucking logical and rational knowledge that unless you are mentally ill movies, television, music and the neighbor's dog do not control your actions and, even if you are mentally ill it's the insanity and not the culture that is controlling you.
And I like to make a point about that because when you blame culture you take responsibility away from the rapist and say that, in some way, culture controlled his actions.
Which leads me to question your logic. To be as flippant as usual let me ask: Are you fucking insane?
To take some obvious examples - feminists seem to believe that a drunk man is responsible for his actions while a drunk woman is not; that how a woman dresses or behaves has no relevance to whether or not she is raped.
I disagree with both those points of view. To me either BOTH are EQUALLY responsible or NEITHER. It's just dishonest and sexist to assume a drunk man is responsible and NOT a drunk woman
Exactly how does being drunk force a man to rape a woman? Seriously how does her being drunk control the way the man acts and make her equally or even partially responsible being raped?
Does female intoxication somehow control the part of the brain, in surrounding men, helps them to determine the difference between right and wrong? Or maybe you are implying that when I drink a portion of my mind psychically controls the movements of surrounding men?
I was not drunk when I was gang raped, but there were a lot of drunk women in the house, were they psychically controlling the men that horribly violated me? Was it a percentage thing? Like a proportional thing? If there were less inebriated women in vicinity would less people have raped me? If there was only one drunk woman at the party would that mean that, with your logic, only one man would have raped me that night?
Because, if your logic there is correct, then all I would need to do to avoid a man raping me again is stay sober and avoid other drunk women.
The thing is, that's not going to work because that is bullshit fucking logic.
And we know it's bullshit fucking logic because the vast majority of men will refuse to fuck shitfaced women that are fucking throwing themselves on them strictly because they do not want to take fucking advantage of them.A drunk woman is not at all even partially, or as you said "equally" responsible for getting raped. It is purely the choice that the rapist makes.
So, now let's move on to the part where you supposed it might be the way a woman dresses that makes her equally or partially responsible for being raped.
We will take what happened to me and once more apply your logic to it.
I was dressed casually, in shorts and a Red Sox t-shirt and cap....now all things being equal we will assume that, given the location, the limp dick pillow biting butt monkeys that attacked me were not goddamned Yankees fans.
And if they were they deserved to rot in hell long before they touched me.
Was it the sensible summer shorts that caused it? Or maybe the shirt? Did my Sox t-shirt take control of the men and partially force them to rape me? I was wearing both a Sox shirt and cap that accounts for two of them. Now, if less women at the party were wearing less Sox paraphernalia would less men have been involved?
You see where I am going with this.
The point is that if you believe in psychic powers, then yes, the drunk woman psychically controlling half the man and half-forcing him to rape her this making her equally to blame might be true...but clothes are inanimate objects and once you realize that fact you have to totally rule that out.
Otherwise, what you said makes no fucking sense whatsoever because we have free will.
I mean, I have tried to psychically force my will on others and I could never fucking do it. I can't pull off the Jedi mind trick.
So that leaves me to wonder if you hear voices in your head that control half of your actions. If you do, try not to listen to them, they are not the voice of God, they are figments of your imagination...just like the imaginary logic that leads you to believe that rape victims are equally responsible because they somehow controlled half the rapist.