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« Reply #15 on: August 26, 2016, 01:06:48 PM »

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 Thanks for understanding. It's really difficult to deal with issues that you both hate and love at the same time. My uncle and others taught me what I understand as evil, but deep inside somewhere it's the evil I love and live for...no, in reality, I'm not a child molester but in my mind and on paper I live it daily. It's this outlet that keeps the molester calm. Thank you very much for the compliment concerning my writing.
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« Reply #16 on: August 30, 2016, 11:47:37 PM »

I think disturbing memories are why such incest is considered taboo.  And of course neither of you said no.  Especially the daughter. It was her father after all.  I hope she has resolved her feelings of shame after the fact, and this has not disrupted her life.
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« Reply #17 on: September 16, 2016, 10:48:42 AM »

Not nearly as intense as some of you.  I was very shy as a kid, and through high school.  I suppose this gave me a sense of powerlessness with the opposite sex, and was the foundation for my interest in ropes and force fantasies. 
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« Reply #18 on: March 04, 2017, 05:46:34 AM »

However, I often wonder if that powerlessness led to me having a strong rape fetish as I got older. Like many of you, I would never actually go out and rape someone. But the rush of power and control I get from RPing or chatting about just savagely violating a woman is intense. Nothing, and I mean nothing, gets me off harder.

It's been said there's a strong correlation between abused children passing on their abuse. If so, this at least seems a healthy outlet. But I am honestly curious about your thoughts and experience. Is there anyone out there that has a parallel with my story and, if so, how do you process/deal with it?

I think similar reasons are why i write.  I had an ex all me once.  Why would i ever write about sick horrible things happening to women.  And i tried to explain that it's the only world in which i have any control. The man who raped me reappeared in my life years after the initial onslaught of attacks and all that control i thought i had in real life meant nothing.  So my characters suffer so i can get out that desire to hurt something as penance for how I've been hurt.....i think
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« Reply #19 on: March 04, 2017, 11:17:10 AM »

I suspect most of us are born with most of our sexual propensities set, and we figure them out as we go through life. Some are tougher than others, especially since as social being, we have to live in whatever culture exists around us. Lots of varied experiences, whether good or bad, give us things to think about and process and come to terms with, even if our conclusions differ from what our society tells us is okay.

Wow, so much psych talk and I don't even trust psychology. I guess it boils down to this: anything that happens to you can help you discover yourself.
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« Reply #20 on: Yesterday at 03:18:35 PM »

I believe mine comes from my older (4 years) brother wanting me to play "Monkeys" out in our barn. He only wanted to do the mating part, but man, I wanted to collect fake bananas and make a storage place and set up our "tree" and all kinds of shit! LOL  My brother was not nice to me. He was often physically and emotionally abusive to me, but he was still my brother, and I still loved him. I knew playing this monkey game was something we shouldn't be doing, but he was actually playing with me and not hitting me, so it was okay. How sad is it that playing sexual games with my brother was acceptable to me because it didn't hurt? But as the Cow in the movie "Babe" said: "The way things are is the way things are." I make no apologies for not resisting him, because he had a way of forcing me to do what he wanted me to do whether I fought or not, so why fight and possibly get hurt when what he was doing wasn't already painful? I had some shame about it when I was young, but not really that much because I realized I didn't really have a choice in the matter. I didn't tell anybody about it thought. Learned helplessness has followed me throughout my whole life, although I recognize it now and try to fight against it. I have no shame about it AT ALL now, and anybody who thinks I should (no one here, of course...just "normal" people) can take a flying fuck at a rolling doughnut.

So, I said all that to say this: I love to fantasize about me being "forced" to feel overwhelming pleasure, and there's nothing I can do about it. I imagine that's part of the bit of guilt that still hangs on. What makes me grin is, my brother never would've had to force me to play his game. If he'd made it good for me, I'd have been the one beating a path to HIS bedroom instead. LOL  But he never figured that out. He was about 14, I was about 10. Sometimes, I bring out the fantasy of being that age again and him tying me up and licking me until I come all over the place, and then he fucks me. For me, the more taboo, the better, it seems. So I fit right in here.  Evil
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« Reply #21 on: Yesterday at 06:40:42 PM »

Indeed you do fit in, and that is a nice little fantasy you had going there at the end :)
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« Reply #22 on: Yesterday at 08:11:05 PM »

The first time I had a sexual encounter, I was raped at the age of 5. A few months later, my clitoris and both my labia minora and majora were surgically excised. I have only ever known sex to be a physically painful act.

That never stopped my libido. Or my fantasies.

In my dreams (nightmares?) I'm a whole person. No burns, no scars, all parts of me intact and in existence. But being forced is still the only way fantasy me can justify why sex is so painful. I can guarantee you my childhood experiences are what brought me here -- being raped as a little girl, no longer feeling pleasure from sex, etc. -- and what keep me coming back.

So yeah, I think childhood has an impact. I don't think I'd have these fantasies if I wasn't so conditioned to associate sex with pain. Because forced sex is painful. Sex between two people who love each other and want each other to feel nothing but pleasure -- that shouldn't be painful. Unless BDSM, which is a whole different conversation.
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