[DrewFarnmoore]

I would love to wake up to that, lol

Hmmm, okay; First, help me tie up the wife, then we go to sleep. The rest, you already know!

[Gokan-han]

I must admit I've had these feelings about my wife as well.  It's good to know that others out there feel the same way.  I've seen some good suggestions on how to "test the waters", so maybe I should give them a try and see what happens.  And if any one else has any other suggestions I would love to hear them as well!

[Hazard]

I think it's hard to broach the subject of "rape fantasy" but really, how hard is it to get a bit rough? I've never had a problem with pinning, or throwing them on the bed, or pulling their hair etc. I think if a girl responds negatively to that, sex is going to be horrifically boring, so what's the point anyway?

I've never had a girlfriend with a history of being raped though, so I appreciate that situation is completely different. Obviously if you're married the solution is NOT divorce, but if I got with a girl that went cold with me the minute I got a bit rough I wouldn't stay with her for long.

My advice: Make sure the sex is spot on before you get married. Sorry. 

[Lois]

I say you just talk to her and ask if there is anything she'd like to try to spice up the sex life.  Then mention that you were reading about various things that some couples have tried.  Then if she reacts negatively you can agree and say that you are not sure you could do that either.

Anyhow, find a list and rattle it off to her.  You might something that gets her imagination going.  Then maybe one thing will lead to another ...