Anyone into bondage is up for SOME of it. Again, they might not THINK of it that way, but it's a logical extension of "why did I get tied up and what's he gonna do to me?" It's a 'loss of control' fantasy. Not many list 'intensity freak', but it's along the same lines and would likely include ravishment.
A good sign is if they list any of the vampire novels (like Ann Rice or especially Laurell Hamilton) in their interests.
That pretty much says "Take me... long, HARD and wicked!" http://www.vampiregenre.com/author-overviews
In a like vein, have you seen how many 'bodice rippers' there are selling on the grocery store shelves? 'Ravishment' (the softer version, for sure) is HIGH on the list of interests and fantasies for a lot of women. Emily found a report elsewhere that listed it as the number one sexual fantasy among women, and most of 'em called it 'rape' instead of 'ravishment'. They WANT to be man-handled by a strong
man, not mother to some emo loser.http://ravishu.com/forums/index.php?topic=8086.0
I get the feel from the women I've talked to about it that the ones that flag strongly for D/s or 'lifestyle' are less interested... they're more into the power play. I haven't talked to 'em a lot 'cos I'm a true switch... I like both
sides of the play, so a lot of 'em write me off.
Some of those conversations were through PMs at Collarme.com (a free alternative to Alt.com and their two daughter sites Bondage.com and Dating.extreme-restraints.com). A quick check there of switch women in the 27 to 37 age range shows around 20 women that have logged in within the last month or two. If you turn off the distance filter and check by the city or location you'll get more hits, as a number of 'em don't put their zip code in there (it does the distance by zip, so if it's blank they won't show up). I looked for switch women figuring they're more open to possibilities, but you may want to expand the search to include sub women, then weed through their profiles to see what they're into. Flip to sub women looking for Doms and you get 3 times as many hits within 100 miles of DFW. A lot of them MAY be interested, but you'd have to read their profiles and talk to 'em. They want to be dominated
, which is edging into Ravishment territory.
The two groups I've been two a few times last year (DFW Bound and Bound Rose) are both fairly small, or were. Figure 20 or 30 regulars that show up, and a few new faces on occasion. They both make ya feel welcome, and from there it's just a matter of chatting the ladies up to see what they're into and whether there's any mutual interest. Both of 'em are more educational than munch-oriented, though. In both of those groups, there was a mix of 20-somethings all the way up to around 60?, very pan-friendly and open; you'll find all sorts attending their meetings. I can't speak for the other groups 'cos I haven't attended any of 'em. You're in a good age-range to find a single lady (or guy, if you bend that way), where I'm at a bit of a disadvantage being nearly 50 (fewer available women in that range). Realize that any of the groups that hold a munch at the dungeon (I think they all have Yahoo groups for their rules and info) will cut ya a price break if you're a dungeon member, which is worth it if you're thinking of attending more than a handful of events per year (I forget what the break-even point is). Don't splurge until you're sure you WANT to go back more than a few times, though: it's $85 / year.
Ravishment has a bad rap 'cos the whole intent is to push the edge of 'non-consensual', which makes a bunch of the guys
REALLY uncomfortable. They do NOT want to be labeled as NC. For me though, it's all still consensual AND safewords are in full effect, yet you're acting like it's a non-consensual
scene to get the juices flowing. Adrenaline is GREAT for pumping up the volume of an encounter.