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Title: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: Lois on March 16, 2014, 02:04:52 PM
Or you will likely get fakes!

Listen up guys.  Us women are often pressured by you into giving you our pictures.  But us females are hesitant to do so because we are fully aware this would be risky for us.  Especially on a rape fantasy site were there might be 1) real rapists, or 2) guys that think that the women here might want real rape!

Now if all you want is a picture to masturbate and fantasize too, this might be fine.  But don't get the nerve to feel "betrayed" when you find out the picture is fake.

Just sayin ....


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: lawgrrl on March 23, 2014, 10:10:03 PM
Thank you for this. I never can understand why men get all bent out of shape when we decline to send pics. Any "real" woman should be wary of identifying herself on a rape fantasy site for all of the reasons you set forth, Lois.


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: zokah on March 24, 2014, 04:10:50 AM
If any of the victims here (or female rapists :D ) want to share pix they can do so in the Photos of members (http://ravishu.com/forums/index.php?board=44.0) section.
I can't fathom how desperate a guy must be to beg for a pic.


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: Red on March 24, 2014, 08:44:43 AM
Can someone explain what a "real" woman is?  I thought real women had XX chromosomes and a vagina.


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: katachrestical on March 28, 2014, 09:43:55 AM
No No, a real woman farts flowers and shoots lasers out her eyes... I agree, it is a silly concept this "real" woman thing.

Anyway, back to this idea of photos. Thank you for posting this, I get super tired of being asked for photos. If I wanted to show everyone on here what I looked liked I wouldn't have david bowie now would I? It is a huge safety risk and makes me feel incredibly insecure and pressured when people persist on the photo idea. I came here to explore my fantasy, not experience the same pressure I feel when I am out to appease horny men. That some how my body is their right to have or see in this case. Blah. over it.

If I do share a photo it will be on my my terms, not any one else's.

And ray,
I can tell you now, there is pretty much a 0% chance that I will ever want to actually meet anyone from the internet let alone from a site based in the rape fantasy idea. It is a scary idea which I currently do not feel remotely comfortable with.
And as for your comment about women having to prove themselves too you, prove that they are real and who they say they are... get over yourself man.


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: ForceU2Love on March 28, 2014, 01:00:49 PM
Can someone explain what a "real" woman is?  I thought real women had XX chromosomes and a vagina.

I think some get confused when dubbing others as real or not.  Some may laugh at parking meter attendants or  security guards for pretending to be REAL cops.  So if someone PRETENDS to be a cop, they're not REAL!
So, this judgment about authenticity gets thrown around a lot. You see people say  things like (on collarme often) there are so many "fake" Doms/Masters or "fake" submissives/slaves, etc

It permeates our culture, calling people out on not being authentic.  People use the expression whenever they want;  "real men wear pink" , "he's a real man", She's a real woman" and on and on.

I think it's used to make the speaker or writer feel better(about themselves)  by putting someone else down.
After all, who doesn't want to feel as though they are the "real deal" and BETTER than others.

Well, I don't  want to invalidate others.  I'd rather get my self esteem from my own personal accomplishments.
Putting others down, invalidating them as "fake" is a shallow, negative way to be and I'm not interested.

So, to answer your question, a woman is a female member of the human race, whether we like the way she looks or agree with her beliefs, no matter what country she comes from, gay or straight, or whatever!


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: DickBiggers on March 30, 2014, 10:49:41 PM
I couldn't agree more with the OP.  We're here for fantasy (or should be).  There is no reason anyone has to know your real name, where you live or what you look like.  I'm a guy, and I don't want anyone knowing my information.  I agree we're visual creatures and love to look at pictures.  So girls, find some obscure modeling site or amateur web site if you want to look more "authentic" and make the model you choose part of your persona.  Put up two or three pics on your profile and let your admirers imagine its you.

As for guys getting bent out of shape, thats too bad.  If your girlfriend or sister were on this site, you wouldn't want a bunch of slobbering perverts doing reverse IP searches looking for the cute blonde with the home invasion fantasy.  Don't be careless and foolish.  I know your name, I know what you look like, I know you live in Toronto, and I know from your bar selfie that you hang out at O'Herlihy's.  That is a very, very dangerous amount of knowledge for a stranger to have about you.


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: DickBiggers on March 30, 2014, 11:32:13 PM
To quote Inspector Drebin, from Police Squad:
"You take a risk every time you get up in the morning.  Every time you cross the street. Every time you stick your face in a fan."

LIFE is dangerous.  The casualty rate is 100%.
Know what would happen to a cute blonde girl with the home invasion fantasy if this particular pervert found her name, knew what she looked like, that she lived in Toronto, and hung out at O'herly's?  I'd E-mail her, and ask her for some more pix. Tell her that if she's ever in my town, she should meet me for coffee.

If she's brave enough, who knows?  She might just get her fantasy fulfilled!

--Ray

I'm not sure what your point is, but to agree with the good inspector and your first sentence, life IS dangerous.  Since life is so inherently dangerous even in the face of preparation and precaution, it is a fool who actively courts danger where none should exist.  You would ask her for coffee because, in spite of your online persona, you are not a violent deviant.  You cannot, however, speak for every other man who visits this site, either casually or as a member.  One man's coffee could just as easily be another man's stalking an intended target.  Yes, you can get hit by a bus crossing the street.  That doesn't mean that you blindly leap off the curb in a balletic plie without ensuring the crosswalk is clear.


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: need2bowned on April 06, 2014, 02:00:08 PM
Why are pics even important?  Do women need to prove themselves?  Screw that!  Some members know what I look like, I've Skyped with a few, and friendships have developed in addition to something much more.  Those who do get personal info about me get it because I trust them.  I don't have to prove myself to anyone and I refuse to do so just so someone will "accept" that I am real.

The only real thing I need to do is be able to look at myself in the mirror every day. 



Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: need2bowned on April 06, 2014, 07:03:04 PM
Why are pics even important?  Do women need to prove themselves?  Screw that!  
  I don't have to prove myself to anyone and I refuse to do so just so someone will "accept" that I am real.

Fair 'nuff.
But then don't expect to be taken seriously.
Brings to mind my elementary school years. A kid on the playground, Tommy Burbank, claimed to be the best marble player in the world. But wouldn't play "for keeps". And when he lost (which he regularly did) while playing "for fun", he would chalk that up to not bringing his "A-Game" since, after all, we weren't playing for keeps.  But if we were, he assured us, he'd win every game.

No need to wonder what became of Tommy Burbank.  
I have no doubt he grew into a super hot female.
On the internet.
Who doesn't send out pix.

But you didn't fool me then, Tommy Burbank. 
And you're not fooling me now.

--Ray


Dude....someone like you taking me seriously doesn't matter. 

The mindset that pictures are required is juvenile.  Women are within their rights to protect themselves and pictures end up on the internet when passed along to those who don't deserve them.  Like I said I don't have to prove myself to anyone and those I choose to have earned the right.


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: Jed on April 06, 2014, 07:27:27 PM
Why are pics even important?  Do women need to prove themselves?  Screw that!  Some members know what I look like, I've Skyped with a few, and friendships have developed in addition to something much more.  Those who do get personal info about me get it because I trust them.  I don't have to prove myself to anyone and I refuse to do so just so someone will "accept" that I am real.

The only real thing I need to do is be able to look at myself in the mirror every day. 


I know what you look like Need, and you are beautiful.


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: need2bowned on April 06, 2014, 07:34:34 PM
pictures end up on the internet when passed along to those who don't deserve them. 

I can tell that you honestly don't even see the arrogance and conceit of such a statement.
It says that you think that you are so wonderful and gorgeous that those who are not worthy ought not be allowed to lay eyes on you.
Gawd forbid that you have to leave your house on trash pickup day and the eyes of a lowly garbageman steal a glimpse of your fair skin.
The horror!  You'd probably just curl up and die!
And meanwhile, the legend of that golden day would live on in heavy rotation as that oh-so-lucky garbageman told the tale over and over back at the garage, and eventually, in his retirement, to his grandchildren, who would beg "tell us again, grandpa, about the day that you got to see that pretty lady even though you didn't deserve to!"

Kate Upton has had her pictures passed all over the internet. In fact, she's even been spotted in person!
(And is probably at great risk of being stalked.)
So unless you're like, 1,000x better looking than her, you should probably get over yourself.
---Ray



Dude, dude, dude.  It's not based on how I feel about myself.  It's based on trust in those who have earned it, not an easy task, I assure you.

Bored now!



Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: PRED8HER on April 06, 2014, 09:47:33 PM
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I can tell that you honestly don't even see the arrogance and conceit of such a statement.

From the guy who thinks that meeting him is a fantasy fulfilled. As opposed to someone who is just trying to be safe (or just has no interest in meeting him).

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Tell her that if she's ever in my town, she should meet me for coffee.
If she's brave enough, who knows?  She might just get her fantasy fulfilled!


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: GEMINIGUY on April 07, 2014, 02:01:08 AM
Need2BeOwned, you've fallen for what many in the past have fallen for: Ray justs loves to mess with people's heads. He's very entertaining, I will admit. But it's better to let him talk and don't bother replying. :P


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: Hazard on April 24, 2014, 05:12:48 PM
To me a 'real woman' on this site refers to a woman, and not a man pretending to be a woman, of which I am convinced there are many.  ::)


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: Red on April 24, 2014, 08:26:45 PM
To me a 'real woman' on this site refers to a woman, and not a man pretending to be a woman, of which I am convinced there are many.  ::)

You are probably not wrong.


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: ForceU2Love on April 29, 2014, 10:34:18 AM
Why are pics even important?  Do women need to prove themselves?  Screw that!  
  I don't have to prove myself to anyone and I refuse to do so just so someone will "accept" that I am real.

Fair 'nuff.
But then don't expect to be taken seriously.
Brings to mind my elementary school years. A kid on the playground, Tommy Burbank, claimed to be the best marble player in the world. But wouldn't play "for keeps". And when he lost (which he regularly did) while playing "for fun", he would chalk that up to not bringing his "A-Game" since, after all, we weren't playing for keeps.  But if we were, he assured us, he'd win every game.

No need to wonder what became of Tommy Burbank.  
I have no doubt he grew into a super hot female.
On the internet.
Who doesn't send out pix.

But you didn't fool me then, Tommy Burbank.  
And you're not fooling me now.

--Ray

I don't think anyone is really in disagreement. I don't really expect a woman who does not feel a connection to me, a friendship with me to send me her picture.  Why should she?  Because she's an exhibitionist?
I don't think the idea of sending a picture to a "friend", someone you feel comfortable, have developed trust with is the issue.  If someone likes me, is my friend and wants to send me a picture, or I want to send them mine, that's our business.

The issue is when someone EXCPECTS  picture, not knowing who you are, not having a bond, a connection with you, just some person who wants to get off, or whatever.  That's a turn off.  It's like saying, "hey, I don't particularly give a shit about you but, um...suck my dick....oh..and by the way, swallow my cum!"  It's like, are you kidding me?!!

I'm a guy and I'm careful about where my pictures may wind up online.  So why would a woman feel any different?
Having said that Ive had many women send me their  pictures over the years and not once did I misuse the picture or betray trust.  I've also never asked for a picture unless I was "into" the woman.  I also never minded waiting until the woman was comfortable.  If she never sent me a picture, cool, no biggie, we don't have to be friends;  It wasn't meant to be.  So  WHY THE BIG DEAL?!  Why does coercion have to be involved.  If a woman wants to send you her pic, she will. IF she won't and you're not happy about it, move on!  No big deal.  I think guys who are so insistent on getting pictures from women, especially without some kind of connection, trust, and/or friendship involved, are likely betraying their own insecurity, insensitivity, lack of social skills, lack of relationship skills, neediness, lack of nuance, etc.

The idea of a woman sending me her picture online because I've pestered her is nauseating to me!  Like, why would I want to do that to someone. It's ridiculous!


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: Lizard69 on April 19, 2018, 06:41:28 PM
A picture? To prove somebody is "real"?

For cryin' out loud!  This is a board for posting fiction!  Located on the internet!

The last thing on earth I want to encounter here is reality!   ;D


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: EraMortis on May 07, 2018, 08:25:42 PM
To me a 'real woman' on this site refers to a woman, and not a man pretending to be a woman, of which I am convinced there are many.  ::)

I've come across a lot :P I don't mind if thats how they get their kinks active. If they're taking others photos as part of a false profile for many years, thats not cool at all.


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: Lois on May 20, 2018, 07:11:51 AM
Hey, maybe Ray was really a woman pretending to be a man?  I certainly don't think he was a man!  :emot_rotf.gif:


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: Nero on May 20, 2018, 07:26:14 AM
Hey, maybe Ray was really a woman pretending to be a man?  I certainly don't think he was a man!  :emot_rotf.gif:

I'd say he was a pussy, except that would be an insult to pussies!    ;)


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: amandablackwood on September 19, 2019, 08:35:35 AM
Someone has illegally obtained sexually explicit photos of me that they have shared on this site. How do I get those to be removed? They were taken during the time I was being trafficked. Yes, I’m a survivor of human trafficking.


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: JDWOLF on September 20, 2019, 01:06:27 AM
I don't live in your country so don't know the laws. The first step would be the police. But realistically, once on the net, impossible to get off. You may be able to get them off the primary hosting site but they could be already copied to other computers.

If the pics were posted on this site, report the problem to Lois or a moderator.


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: Army of One on September 20, 2019, 05:53:06 AM
If the pics were posted on this site, report the problem to Lois or a moderator.
She already did, JD; Eljorn was on top of it early this morning. Hence why three stories are missing.


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: JDWOLF on September 20, 2019, 02:31:40 PM
If the pics were posted on this site, report the problem to Lois or a moderator.
She already did, JD; Eljorn was on top of it early this morning. Hence why three stories are missing.

Good!!


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: Tony V. on September 20, 2019, 02:50:47 PM
Amanda ,

I'm so very sorry this happened to you......

That is the only logical thing to say. I have NO other words to console you......


Tony V.                 :police:


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: dawnamber on January 03, 2020, 08:29:42 AM
I choose to post pictures. And I'm semi public in my job. Meaning I am viewed by a Medical board which would frown if I posted lewd pictures. The site itself has already been accepted. I know this because I asked my advisor. It's dubbed a fantasy site, not a site advertising for real life meetings. My ex and I once had pictures stolen from a site and used on another. They claimed them as their own.. It was nearly impossible to get them removed, and it took months. Finally they simply blocked the profile. And, we stopped posting the images anywhere. I don't include my face in images containing body parts that some might deem lewd, for this very reason.

But Geminiguy is right. Ignore the noise makers. 99% of the time, they fuel dissension because of inadequacies in their own lives. Seeing others hurt or defensive gives them a feeling of empowerment. Knowledge is power. So you only give them power by defending yourself.

But while it used to bother me, finding out "Carol" was really "Bob" or " Arthur" was really "Amy"..I instead choose to think of it this way...if someone needs to complete their fantasies on a fantasy site, by pretending to be something other than what they are, and if by doing this, it helps them function in healthier ways in life, then I'm glad for them. But, I've grown very adept at spotting males pretending to be females. It's much harder spotting females pretending to be males

And a zillion thanks and licks to the owner and moderators here..I love the way they run this site....especially Lois and Eljorn

Dawn


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: Tony V. on January 03, 2020, 04:21:16 PM
I am so very sorry this happened to you, Sweet dawnamber. While I was Active, I found Myself in the Media eye far more than I ever wanted. As a Law Enforcement Officer it comes with the job. I didn't like it, nor could I even tolerate it....

Now that I've Retired, My L. E. O. past still comes back to visit Me. The vast majority of My students are very media savvy, and more than once I've been greeted by printouts of Me On Duty being left on My desk.......


Tony V.                     :police:


Title: Re: Please do not ask for pictures!
Post by: BindandGagHer on August 18, 2020, 01:40:23 PM
I had someone asking me for pics of the girls I'm writing about.  Fortunately, if there are pics, it is because I was inspired by a porn star, as in the case of "Siri" in "My Loving Brother."  I simply suggested he Google "Siri" and include the word Scoreland in the search.  A very beautiful, youthful face on a very beautiful, voluptuous (adult) body!