Or is it neither? Or is it both?
Real Rape is not about Love or Hate nor is it anything to do with Lust , Desire , Passion or about the victims clothing they were wearing . I can speak from first hand experience as well as a listener to many victims . No I have not been a victim myself but there has been many times when I have felt like one . There are many scenarios and many variations of what took place during the Rape itself however 2 distinctive patterns emerged from discussions I had with the victims of trauma ( as I call them ) .
Rape is about " Power of control " over the Victim and making them do what the Rapist want's them to do against their will , this is always followed by " Anger " from the Rapist when the victim ( he or she ) says the word ( NO ) to them . From the Rapist point of view this is seen as defiance to their power over the victim and discipline is needed to reign them in with physical violence by way of slapping or punching or using fear as a weapon by way of a gun or knife , until the victim submits to his power .
Real Rape is a filthy , disgusting and abhorrent crime that leaves scars on the victims mind for the rest of their lives but it also leaves similar scars on anyone who knows about the victims attack . There is NO cure for any of this and the victim has a life time of mental problems , in all cases the victim is never the same person that you once knew and struggles to cope with life and relationships . All the victim can hope for is to suppress the trauma by way of talking to someone he or she trusts and gets the help mentally to be able to cope and regain some of their lives they have not lost but had taken away from them .
Fantasies are Fantasies and they should remain so and never be brought into reality by forcing someone against their will . Everyone has rights and the right to say the word NO ! Women have the same rights as Men and they must be respected at all times .
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