I do not know fully what is going on, just replying to what I have read. I have not read all of the thread as I mentioned before. This is just my input.
When I have close friends that are male and female and they become involved and they break up, I remain friends with them...both of them.
Now when I am with a friend and introduced to someone and find they get on my nerves, I do not expect my friend to end their friendship with them because I do not get along with them...and vice versa.
They also know that I will not lie for them to get them out of trouble(murder, stealing, etc) I am not going to jail for no body!
When I moved here, bf and his daughter in law were seriously butting heads. I met and like his daughter in law as well as the rest of his family. He kept saying what a fuciking ding-bat she is and she just 'does not have a fucking clue'. She is that but I still like her. He kept saying, it is all going to come to a head and wanted me to side with him. I told him "I love you and like your daughter in law alot. But DO NOT ask me to take sides or try to put me in the middle of this. This is between you and daughter in law. I am not taking sides!"
Same goes with my friends. I may not do what they do, have the same religion is, drink, etc. But if I have a friendship with them and want me to take sides..no. I will not get in the middle of their disputes. They have to work them out their selves. If someone harasses me to the point where they give me an ultimatum of either "them or me" it will be both. would watch tv and see to guys fighting over one girl and she is standing nearby watching and enjoying this. Not me. If two men turn to violence to 'win me', then I do not want either one of them.
I will support my friends in whatever decisions they make, be proud of their accompishments, be there when they need a shoulder to cry on and an ears for listening, and love them for who they are.